More tips for you..BOY or GIRL ??

Will your baby be a boy or a girl? This ancient chart is supposed to predict your child's gender, based upon your age and the month of conception!

More about the chart
The chart was supposedly discovered in a tomb and is rumored to be over seven centuries old. (The original is said to be on display at the Beijing Institute of Science in China.) How accurate is it? Reports vary -- so don't repaint the nursery based on the results -- but it's still fun to see what is predicted for you! To make it easier to read, we have separated the chart into two. You should also base your age on your lunar age. Lunar months are about 29 days long.

Age at conception: 18 to 31
Use this chart if you were between the ages of 18 and 31 at the time of conception. Find your age along the top, and the month of conception down the left-hand column. Find where the two intersect to find your prediction!

Month 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31
January F M F M F M M F M F M F M M
February M F M F M M F M F M F M F F
March F M F F M F M M M F M F F M
April M F M F F M M F F M F F F F
May M F M F M M F F F F F M F F
June M M M F F F M M M F F M F F
July M M M F F M M F F M M M F F
August M M M F M F F M M M M M F F
September M M M F F M F M F M M M F F
October M M F F F M F M F M M F F F
November M F M F F M F M F F F F M F
December M F M F F F F M F M F F M M

Age at conception: 32 to 45
Use this chart if you were between the ages of 32 and 45 at the time of conception. Find your age along the top, and the month of conception down the left-hand column. Look where the two intersect to get your prediction!

Month 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45
January M F M M F M F M F M F M M F
February F M F M M F M F M F M F M M
March M M M F M M F M F M F M F M
April F M F M F M M M M F M F M F
May F F F F M F M M F M F M M F
June F F F F F M F F M F M F M F
July F F F F F F M F M M F M F M
August F M F M F M F M F M M F M F
September F F F F M F M F M F M M F M
October F F F F M M F M F M F M M F
November F F M M M F M F M F M M F M
December M M M M M M F F F M F M F M


Don't forget
This chart is for entertainment purposes only. It is not a guarantee and we make no claims as to its accuracy. It's here just for fun, but yes, the original birth chart is said to be real and some reports suggest better than 50/50 accuracy. PregnancyAndBaby.com

Did you know that...

  • ALKALINITY favors the conception of a baby BOY

  • ACIDITY favors the conception of a baby GIRL

The folk wisdom

If you want your baby to be a boy, should you eat more red meat? To get a girl, should you treat yourself to chocolate? Or make love under a full moon?

Everyone's heard at least one of these stories , and we all know they're just urban myths, but...what if, by chance, one of these methods actually works? Couples who'd give anything for a daughter or a son may want to give one or two of them a shot (heck, it can't hurt, right?). We've collected some of our favorite folklore about how to make a boy or girl. Share your ideas in the comment box at the bottom of the page — especially anything that has worked for you.

(A caveat: Those of you who are truly serious about sex selection should be sure to see our article on what the scientists say. Also, don't forget to take our quiz on the myths and realities of baby-making to find out what can really help you conceive.)

Your child is what you eat
According to folk wisdom, what you put in your body before conceiving may affect what comes out nine months later.

If you want a boy...

> Eat more meat — the redder the better.

> Stick with salty snacks such as pretzels and chips.

> Dads-to-be: Stock up on soda, especially cola drinks.

If you want a girl...

> Both partners should eat lots of fish and veggies.

> Give in to your chocolate craving, or just eat sweets in general.
The joy of sex
Quite a few old wives' tales about sex selection involve theories about the best way to make love if you want to influence your baby's gender.

If you want a boy...

> Lie down after sex and stay there for a while. Supposedly that gives the boy sperm a chance to beat the girl sperm to the egg.

> Make love standing up.

> Try the rear-entry position.

> Focus on his pleasure — if the male partner climaxes first, supposedly you're guaranteed a boy.

> Give in to seduction — if the man is the one to suggest some baby-making, you'll get a boy.

> Gals, sleep to the left of your partner.

If you want a girl...

> Give the missionary position a go.

> Make love with the woman on top.

> Focus on her pleasure — if the woman orgasms before her partner, you can decorate your nursery in pink.

> Take the lead — if the woman initiates sex, you'll get a girl.
It's all in the timing...or the direction
In a society where many people still check their daily horoscope for guidance, is it any surprise that superstition and folklore also dictate when to make love if you want to pick your baby's sex?

If you want a boy...

> Make love when there's a quartermoon in the sky.

> Have sex at night.

> Mark your calendar — more boys are conceived on odd days of the month.

> Follow the compass — one of our users swears that pointing the woman's head north while you make love guarantees a boy.

If you want a girl...

> Do the baby dance when the moon is full.

> Make a date for love in the afternoon.

> Get together on the even days of the month.

Get Pregnant??

If you have been trying to get pregnant, you probably know the importance of timing intercourse in order to have the greatest possible chance of conception. This planner can be customized to help take out some of the guesswork when it comes to knowing your most fertile days.

Finding the best dates
This pregnancy planner calculates the optimum days for achieving pregnancy up to six months in advance. This tool can help you become aware of their ovulation and the peak/preferred times for sexual activity. The plans are based on the fact that, for the majority of women, ovulation happens 14 days before the next menstrual period. The planner calculates fertility dates and suggest dates for pregnancy testing and will also estimate a due date based upon successful fertilization during the cycle.

If you are trying for a boy or girl, the planner will also suggest some actions that may influence the gender of your child, based on the scientific research of Dr Landrum Shettles and David M Rorvik, who published findings in a book called "How to choose the sex of your baby: The Method Best Supported by Scientific Evidence."

Before you begin, there are a few things to keep in mind:

  • Cycles longer than 35 days or shorter than 21 days cannot be calculated by this program.
  • This calendar cannot be used to reliably prevent pregnancy.
  • There is no guarantee that you will achieve pregnancy by using this information.
  • This tool and information contained within are intended as medical advice. Consult with your healthcare provider ifyou have questions or concerns.

Enter your information here

First day of last menstrual period:
Length of cycle: days
Desired sex of baby:
Show me: months of plans


How can I get my toddler to walk more?

My toddler wants to be carried everywhere. How can I get her to walk more?

Expert Answers

Penelope Leach, child psychologist

Demanding to be carried gets a lot of toddlers into trouble, especially when they refuse to walk with a moving adult yet will happily run circles around a seated one.

Though this irritating behavior may look like laziness or defiance, it's seldom anything of the kind. Toddlers' early walking isn't about getting from point A to point B, but has a pattern of going and coming to an adult base. If the base moves, the pattern is disrupted and your child may plop herself down on the ground and howl. If you move slowly, she won't follow because she can't. If you go back and take her hand she may stay with you for a few steps, but even with that physical link she can't keep walking beside you. She demands to be carried because, until she's around 3 years old, that's the only way she can stay with you.

If your toddler isn't able to walk with you and you don't want to (or can't) carry her, the obvious answer is to use a stroller, though that may not be his first choice. Even after they're capable of walking along with other people, almost all small children go through phases when they want to be carried far more than adults want to carry them.

Being carried is close, cuddly, and emotionally rewarding. What's more, its physical advantages don't stop at relieving tired legs. When you lift your toddler, her view expands from legs and wheels to the world as you see it; she's well above anything that might seem dangerous (like passing dogs) and she can see adult faces and hear what you're all saying to each other. That's a lot to give up, so you'll need to make walking or riding equally enjoyable for her.

Sometimes children who are developmentally capable of walking along hand in hand with an adult still make a fuss about doing so. The problem then may be that reaching up to that adult hand is pretty uncomfortable and gets worse still every time the child stumbles and gets yanked back upright.

Walking is fun and feels safe for both of you if you let your toddler tuck herself in front of you and push the stroller with your hands on either side of hers, or if there are safe stretches of the route where you can chase or race each other. If that fails, though, and she only wants to be carried, try taking turns: "I'll carry you to that big tree, and then you walk (or ride) to the corner." No trees or corners? Try counting instead; she may even get distracted before you reach 100.

General Discipline Guidelines

General Discipline Guidelines
We as parents / educators should have certain beliefs, including:

All children want to do the right thing.
Children prefer to have definite rules.
We do NOT want blind obedience.
Children need practice in doing the right thing.
Children imitate all the time.

Guidelines:

• Establish routines and stick to them-this gives the child a sense of security and the child knows what to expect next.

• Be consistent!!! Remember that "a rule is a rule" and do not be afraid to say "NO" to your child.

• Give as few commands as possible-then follow through. Give necessary help.

• Only ONE person should direct a child at a time.

• Warn your child ahead of time-for example, "you may finish what you are doing, then it will be time for..." or "when I call you again, it will be time for dinner"

• Do not harp on poor behavior. Disapprove of what your child is doing if need be, but do not focus on the misbehavior. Offer a positive alternative.

• Be objective-avoid phrases such as "I want you to...." Instead say, "It`s time to..." or "the clock says..." Speaking in this manner will allow to child to accept more impersonal control with less argument.

• Give a choice ONLY if the child may choose. If you offer a choice, remember that you must accept the choice the child makes.

• Keep your child purposefully occupied-children need direction. For example, "you may do..., or..., or..." These could be fun suggestions or chores that are saved until time of need.

• Recognize achievement! Accept your child where he/she is. Remember your goal may not be his/her goal. Most important-Praise, Praise, Praise! Be sincere, not sugar-coated.

• Be casual-don`t argue or over-reason. Give simple explanations to your child. Then remain calm and ignore further arguments on the child`s part.

• Don`t worry about others` opinions- set your own standards.

• Do not deceive a child-avoid promises you cannot keep. Do not threaten something you cannot follow through on. Do NOT discuss your child in front of him/her.

Remember, there are no perfect parents. Participating in parenting classes and learning parenting techniques are wonderful for support and guidance. Do not be discouraged if you are unable to remember and/or follow each technique. Everything takes time and practice.

Carol Bottstein is a school psychologist with 25 years of experience in special education. Visit Long Island Educational Corner at http://www.carolbottstein.com for interesting and informative articles regarding parenting, mental health, education, self-improvement and other relevant topics.

7 Tips on Baby Tooth Care

7 Tips on Baby Tooth Care
Practical tips for keeping baby's brand-new teeth healthy.

Now that your baby's teeth are on their way in, it's time to start taking care of them. Even though this set will only be around for a short time, their health essential to your baby's gums and those future permanent teeth.

Make sure your baby's new teeth get the best care:

1. Start cleaning your child's mouth even before her teeth come in. Wipe the gums off after each feeding with a warm, wet washcloth or a dampened piece of gauze wrapped around your finger. You can also buy thimblelike, soft rubbery devices (they fit over your index finger) to use for rubbing off excess food.

2. Once the teeth begin coming in, start taking care of them right away. Many parents think baby teeth aren't important because they're eventually replaced by permanent ones. But these first teeth preserve the spacing for the permanent ones and help baby chew and talk. If they're not cared for properly the can decay, leading to a gum infection called gingivitis, which can affect the spacing of permanent teeth.

3. Watch for cavities. The first signs of cavities in baby teeth are discoloration and minor pitting. Putting baby to bed with a bottle of milk (or worse, juice) is notorious for causing cavities. Don't leave your infant with a bottle for long periods of time, especially if you notice he's no longer feeding and is just using the bottle for comfort.

4. Follow meals with water. Most infant foods easily wash off baby's teeth with just a drink of water after meals. But it's good to introduce a toothbrush (choose a very soft one) as soon as possible, so baby can get used to having it in his mouth. You probably won't need to use the brush to actually clean baby's teeth until he's eating only table foods (and has a significant number of teeth), at around 18 months. However, you'll want to gently clean your child's teeth with a toothbrush or thimblelike cleaner and some bicarbonate of soda if your toddler has eaten sticky, sugary foods.

5. Begin using a pea-size amount of nonfluoride toothpaste once baby is about age 2. Wait until at least age 3, when your child is old enough not to swallow the toothpaste, before introducing the fluoride kind.

6. Regulate baby's fluoride intake. Even though your baby isn't using a fluoride toothpaste, he should get enough fluoride -- important for preventing tooth decay -- from drinking tap water. Most communal water supplies have it added just for this beneficial purpose. Ask your doctor about fluoride supplements baby can take once he's 6 months old if your tap water is not fluoridated or your child doesn't drink any tap water.

7. Schedule a dental exam. The American Dental Association recommends that baby get his first dental exam at age 1, but most pediatricians agree that the first visit can wait until age 3, as long as you practice good home care.

If you take good care of this first set of pearly whites, you can establish good dental habits for years to come.

Originally published May 2001.

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